Sometimes You Just Have to Throw Stuff Out

Stuff. Everyone has plenty of it. The late comedian George Carlin had a hysterically funny bit he performed based on stuff and how we have to buy bigger homes and rent storage space just to keep up with our stuff.

There’s an amazing amount of stuff that people accumulate. Whether it’s things you buy, things you receive from attending an event, gifts people buy for you or however you got it, you’ve now got a household full of stuff.

Stuff can become overwhelming and take over your home. Last week I worked with a client to purge some of the stuff that was now threatening to take over too much space in the apartment she shares with her husband. I realized that the reasons she had kept most of the stuff were the same reasons most of us hold on to stuff. First, she didn’t know what to do with the stuff she didn’t really want or didn’t really need. Secondly, people sometimes feel that if there’s free space, it should be filled up with stuff and lastly, she kept the stuff because of environmental guilt.

So let’s tackle these problems one at a time. You don’t know what to do with your stuff. So here’s how to figure out what to do with it. Ask yourself these questions: have you used the item in the past year? No? Get rid of it. Has the stuff expired as medicines, make up, lotions, perfumes, etc? Yes? Get rid of it. Many of these items only last for a year or so and could be harmful to you. And finally, the questions you should always ask yourself when looking at what you currently own or wish to buy: do I like it and do I need it?

If you don’t like something such as jewelry given to you 20 years ago and no longer wear it, get rid of it. If you don’t need 30 pairs of shoes or 20 t-shirts, get rid of the one’s you no longer wear, look like they’re falling apart or don’t fit properly anymore.

Second problem: Filling up free space because it’s there. Free space is nice. Free space allows you to have free flowing thoughts, reduces clutter, saves time and helps you find everything quickly. Filled up space means clutter, things forgotten about, losing items, spending time finding those items, buying more items that you have because you can’t find them and on and on and on. Free space is good. Free space is what you want. Just because you have free space does not mean that you need it filled. If you allow yourself time to get used to the free space, you’ll find how beneficial it is. It’s like learning to enjoy silence, at first, it seems almost odd in a world where there seems to be noise everywhere, but once you get used to the silence, it becomes something to be cherished and held on to. Enjoy the free space.

Last problem: Environmental guilt. Okay, I made this term up myself, but I think it’s something many of my clients and me as well suffer from. Most of my clients care deeply about the environment. They recycle, they reuse and they reduce. So when they end up collecting tons of samples of items or are given gifts or start holding on to things they don’t really want, need or use, they end up feeling guilty. They could probably recycle the small sample jar of face cream, but there are several jars and there’s little time and it’s a lot of effort. Let the guilt go. Some times you just have to throw stuff out. Not everything can be recycled, reduced or reused.

If there are places to donate those items in your area, please, by all means do so. However, not everything can be donated. Sometimes there is no need for the items you don’t want or, due to laws (such as donating mattresses due to the bed bug problem) you can’t donate used items. Throw your stuff out in the garbage and while you’re at it, throw out the guilt as well.

Feeling badly because you’re tossing out items you think could be useful somewhere is waste of time. Just throw them out and think: I’m allowing myself the freedom to enjoy what I possessions I have chosen to keep. I’m allowing myself the freedom to throw things out that can’t be reused or recycled and the planet will not spiral into more peril because I did that. Guilt alone never saved anyone or anything so allowing it to control your life and your stuff is a waste of time and energy.

I hope this article has helped those of you who are beginning to feel overwhelmed by the amount of stuff accumulating in your life. Whether it’s physical stuff at your home or office or even emotional stuff, there’s no room in your life to keep it all. Choose what you want to surround yourself with, who you want to surround yourself with and what makes you happy and you’ll find purging unwanted items, emotions and unhealthy relationships quickly become a thing of the past.

If you need help or support purging these items, please contact Alison Kero at: 646-831-9625 or e-mail her at: info@gothamconcierge.com to schedule an appointment. I accept in person appointments in the New York City area and I welcome all phone consultations anywhere nation wide. Good luck on purging out the negative and getting rid of unwanted stuff!

Organizing your Inbox for Time Management

Let me guess, your e-mails have gotten out of control. You get distracted quickly because an e-mail comes in and as a result, your work is taking longer than you had originally thought. You have begun to have a love/hate relationship with e-mail.

It’s completely understandable these days we get so many e-mail messages during the day that it becomes overwhelming. More e-mails pour in every day and you never want to miss an important e-mail, but are starting to feel overwhelmed by the amount and want to make sure you’re also staying on task while devoting enough time to responding to important e-mails.

First, unless you have or work in a business where your only part in being there is to respond to e-mails, most e-mails do not need to be read as soon as they come in. In fact, studies show that every time you get distracted, whether from a phone call, someone stopping by your desk or an e-mail comes in, the average person gets off task for anywhere from 10-20 minutes. How often are your e-mails so important that stopping your work for that long is actually beneficial to your time? It’s probably not as often as you think. To help prevent such losses in time, schedule specific periods during your day to look at and respond to your e-mails. How often you do this depends upon how much e-mail you get and how much you need to respond to them.

If you fear that not responding immediately will cause problems, start to let people you work with know that you will be looking at your e-mails during specific points of the day. Let your clients know as well. Then invite them to call you if there is an emergency, but otherwise, you’ll get back to them at the allotted time in the day. Always train people to know what to expect from you and it prevents unnecessary problems and/or breakdowns in communications. Most people can wait a few hours for a response.

When you do reach those points of the day where you are responding to e-mail, first go through the e-mails quickly one by one. Do not respond immediately to any of them. Create file folders for your incoming e-mails such as: research, respond to within 1 week, respond to within 1 day, keep, etc. These different file folders can be set out to work for the types of typical e-mails you receive daily. Once you have put your e-mails into their respective folders, go through those e-mails you perceived to need an immediate response and get them out of the way. Also, set up and utilize your junk folder to filter out unwanted e-mails.

Again, any time you are in the middle of a task and you take a moment to look at an e-mail, it will take you 10-20 minutes to get your brain back on task. If you receive many e-mails during the day, this habit will create problems with getting your work done on time, keeping you working later hours than are needed, leads to exhaustion, stress and less time to concentrate on other things. By setting specific points during the day, such as at 9:30 am, 12:30 pm and 4:30 pm to look over, sort and respond to e-mail then you have made a date with yourself to handle e-mail, but are not a slave to handling everything that comes in when it comes in.

Sorting quickly through your e-mails helps you to quickly assess what needs to be looked at immediately and what can wait. By assigning certain items to be worked on later when you have more time and those that aren’t pressing matters, it allows you to have the time to devote yourself to work that is imperative. Sorting your e-mails into categories allows you to prioritize your work and makes it simpler and less overwhelming to deal with. The file folders also make it much easier to find e-mails in the future.

Always make sure you delete items you no longer need on a daily basis. If you aren’t sure, create another file folder to hold on to items you may need to find later on. However, your inbox should only carry items that need to be addressed immediately or those items you have not yet sorted through.

I hope this helps to begin the process of learning how to live without instant e-mail gratification. If you have a ton of e-mails to sort through, do a little at a time or you’ll never get it done. Ask your assistant to help filter e-mails for you as well. Lastly, if you feel you need additional help of a professional organizer or time management coach, contact Alison Kero at: 646-831-9625 or on her e-mail at: info@gothamconcierge.com. Consultations can be done in person in the NYC metro area or phone consultations are available nationwide. Lastly, if you trust and know of another professional organizer, contact them and make an appointment to get your time, space and life organized today. You’ll see and live the difference every day! Good luck!

Linking Similar Tasks Together to Save Time

Do you remember the Sesame Street song that went, “one of these things is not like the other, one of these things doesn’t belong. Can you tell which thing is not like other by the time I finish this song”? This is a great song to remember when your goal is saving time and being organized.

What I mean is that you’re more likely to remember where things are and where you keep them if you put similar things together. Put all your pots and pans together. Put all paper goods together. Schedule similar tasks at the same time so if you have tasks on your list that are similar in nature, do them together. Say you have 3 projects you’re working on and each project requires you to do some writing, some research and some number crunching. Schedule your time working on these projects not separately, but together. Schedule the writing for each project together, schedule the research for all 3 together and the same with the number crunching. Although they are separate projects, writing is writing and when the creative juices are flowing, it’s far easier to keep up momentum if you’re staying within the same task.

If you schedule one project at a time you’re instead jumping around far more than you would by scheduling these like tasks together. The best part for those of you who thrive on variety, you still get variety by scheduling your tasks this way because the nature of these projects will probably be different, but again, allowing yourself to work on virtually one task will help you to be far more productive.

Continuing to lump like things together, whether you’re organizing items in your home, projects you need to finish or tasks you need to accomplish will allow you to save time. You will know where your items are because you can relate the box of extra pens to the supply of paper and envelopes you placed with them. You have then saved yourself the time it would have taken to remember where you put them and the search it would have taken to locate the pens. You know where they are from now on because you placed them near similar items.

You can save time by lumping errands together that are near one another. If I have to schedule an appointment, go to the bank, pick up food and stop by the pharmacy, I know I can do these in one trip because I know that all of the places I need to go to finish these errands are nearby one other. I then plan to do them in practical order. I would first stop off at the pharmacy to drop off my prescription because I know it usually takes 30 minutes to fill. I then would stop by the bank to deposit a check because it’s the next location on my way to grab food. I then schedule my eye appointment because it’s next to the food shop, then grab my hot food and stop by the pharmacy, which was my first stop and closest to home on my way back.

Again, planning and scheduling a little ahead and lumping like things together will go a long way toward creating a more simple life, which will enable you to be more productive and use less time to accomplish your goals, tasks, errands and projects.

If you need help creating a process for your hectic schedule, creating an organizational scheme for your home or office, or how to get more time out of your life, contact me, Alison Kero at: 646-831-9625 or e-mail me at: info@gothamconcierge.com to schedule an in-person visit or phone consultation today. Best of luck organizing your time, space and life!

Learning to Say “NO” To Solve a Problem

Have you ever tried to accomplish a task that seemed to be problematic from the start? In my business that task was errand running. Unless I know the client, I can’t seem to finish a request without major problems arising, despite the fact that I’ve done my research and asked as many questions as I could prior to beginning.

It was after my last errand running task that I realized I was wasting a tremendous amount of my time and I needed to stop providing this service. The errand I had said yes to seemed simple enough, but ended up taking 2 days and never did get finished due to a whole host of unexpected complications. I had given the client a 4 hour quote, so I lost a fair amount of money on this unfinished task. I could have sat around and chastised myself for not accomplishing the errand for this new client and concentrating on how much time and money I wasted, but instead I realized something far more important and positive than beating myself up; I hate running errands. Worse than that; when calculating time spent to the money I earned, I was losing money each time!

What? Give up? Should I give up? Should I say no to errand running requests in the future? Was I being lazy, unhelpful, selfish, or a bad business owner? No! I was finally accepting the conclusion that I can’t be great at everything. I realized that not being great at everything was more than okay, it was normal. What wasn’t okay was continuing to say yes to requests I didn’t enjoy doing and I didn’t find rewarding. I can help people manage their time and I can help people get their homes and offices organized because I see the value in my time and theirs when I help them this way. I see no value when I’m trying to locate a red hot chili pepper or various parts to a wardrobe at Ikea.

I also realized I was wasting a tremendous amount of time and energy on a task I disliked, yet continued to say yes to similar requests. How many times have you continuously pushed yourself to be good at something you’re not? How much money have you spent trying to, “do it yourself” when you should have been hiring an expert? How much time have you wasted saying “yes” to something that is not within your area of expertise? How much money have you wasted by continuously saying “yes”?

When you have a task to perform always ask yourself, “do I like doing this,” “is it cost effective for me to perform this task” and “will it take less time to hire a professional”? If the answer is “yes” to all, then by all means go ahead and do that task! However, if you say no to 2 or more of those questions, then it’s time to outsource or say no.

If you have a task to perform at work, ask yourself if it’s worth it to continue doing that task. Is there someone else who can perform this task better than you? At a lower cost than your time is worth? Is this something you offer that perhaps you should walk away from?

Sometimes the best way to save time and money is to accept that you cannot do everything and you cannot do everything well. Then walk away and walk towards those things you do excel at, that you make money at and you enjoy doing. Sometimes saying “no” is the best time saver of all.

Although saying “no” is one of the things I teach in my time management seminar and tele-seminar’s, learning to use it effectively and often and with meaning is really difficult. I strive each day to use the powerful word “no” when I know it’s in my best interest, but that never means it’s easy to do. Practice makes it easier as does the feeling of empowerment I feel after I’ve said it.

The trick to saying no is figuring out what you want to do. Once you’ve figured that out, saying “yes” to what you want and “no” to what you don’t want it becomes much easier. I will be writing more on the subject of saying no to save time in the future since it’s a huge subject and there are many ways to use “no” effectively to get what you want, what you need and lower stress levels.

If you want to start making positive changes in your life to become more organized and in control of your time, join in on my monthly tele-seminar or contact me at: 646-831-9625 or info@gothamconcierge.com to learn about my in-person sessions or private phone consultations. Please visit my website at: http://www.gothamconcierge.com to learn more about how Gotham Concierge can help organize your time, space and life. Best of luck!